|Struggling with food sucks. Truly.|
So today, I just wanted to say – I get it. Me too.
I’ve been through my own fight with food, for over 10 years.
Yes, I feel grateful for the things it helped me learn…
Yes, I love helping other women get over it…
But man, it was hard. The hardest thing I’ve ever done, and I’ve gone through some pretty crazy stuff.
There’s the constant trying and failing…
Not even having the willpower to stop a cookie…
Living in shame, guilt, lethargy and desperation…
Feeling like such a failure and losing our power & confidence…
I’ve heard it described in many ways.
“I feel like slave to food”
“How pathetic that my life revolves around food”
“It’s like a heavy ball weighing me down”
“I feel like a prisoner in my own mind and body”
The worst part is how eating habits show up for the most driven and committed women. The harder we try, the more we complicate food until it runs our lives.
It hurts deeply.
We hurt deeply.
Even the most powerhouse women start to feel hopeless.
The good news is that there’s a way out from all the binge eating, emotional eating, restriction, tracking, on-track off-track rollercoaster…there’s freedom from all of it.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
So when you’re ready, I am here to help.
Until then, there’s nothing wrong with you. You are not broken. You are just missing the right plan – that’s all.
P.S. – sometimes, it’s good to just acknowledge how hard it is. It takes a weight off your shoulder. But staying there too long can make us lose belief, and when that happens – no one can help you. Get the guidance you need before it’s too late, so we can hop on a free call and map out your exact path to freedom.
| “We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.” – Brene Brown|
I was watching Brene’s new Netflix special “A Call to Courage” recently and was reminded of this amazing quote from her. It perfectly applies to our food and eating too.
If you’re like most women, you might read this quote and think “Oh god, I need to choose courage and resist my cravings instead of choosing comfort and giving it to them.”
Is that the whole truth? Yes and No.
If that was all you needed to do, you’d have found a way to do it already, wouldn’t you? You wouldn’t end up falling off the same wagon, repeating the same mistakes…again and again? After all, you have a successful career and relationships.
Here’s what I see most women truly missing when it comes to their eating –
Courage to HOPE that they can have a happy, normal and easy relationship with food just like “those” men and women they feel jealous of.
Instead, they choose the comfort of somehow surviving and managing food than hoping for a better future.
Courage to BELIEVE that this kind of beautiful freedom, joy and effortless control is possible for them.
Instead, it’s so much easier to blame things on metabolism, genetics, “maybe it’s just not for me” or “can I catch a break”. It’s so much more comforting to feel sorry for ourselves (believe me, I know – I’ve been there, done it).
Courage to DREAM of the life that becomes possible when they get their time, energy and confidence back. What would it feel like to be that powerhouse self again, to be an amazing mom & wife and show up as a strong inspirational leader?
Instead, it’s comforting to not dream at all than to dream and be disappointed again.
We shun courage because being truly courageous requires us to be vulnerable- to dream again, to believe again, to hope again.
And when we refuse to be vulnerable, we remove all the reasons that motivate us to fix food. There is no leverage, no excitement to move us, nothing on the other side.
But when you bravely hope, dream and believe again, a new path opens up.
Imagine feeling powerfully in control of your food destiny instead of like a slave to food…
Imagine ending binge & emotional eating and getting your light and confidence back…
Imagine stepping out of all the routines & coping mechanisms dragging you down and being able to soar freely and joyously without food or eating holding you back…
It’s all possible. I’ve done it. Our clients do it.
The only question is – are YOU choosing Courage or Comfort?
P.S. – if you’re feeling a new energy reading this post, I would urge you to leverage this hope and possibility to take action. Don’t just let it go and fall back into despair again. Book your free Breakthrough to Freedom session and we’ll dive deeper into what it would really take for you to end the craziness with food. We’ll figure the right dreams so you have leverage moving forward. And we’ll pull it all together into a plan that will take you from fighting to free. Sounds good? Here’s the link to book this call – https://www.myspoonfulofsoul.com/apply/
P.P.S – yes, it takes courage to book this call. But you can’t have both courage and comfort. Which one is it going to be?
|Do you look at eating as a battle?|
If you stay within the food “rules”, do you feel happy & proud?
If you stray outside the boundaries, do you feel like you “lose”?
We’ve grown up in a competitive society where success in school and our careers have come from always being the best. But the truth is, the best relationship with food happens when there is no winner or loser, when food is just food…
If you think you have to be perfect each time…
Or that you have to “win” every meal or craving or thought…
You are most certainly going to lose.
Food’s always here, always winning because eating makes us feel good – it releases dopamine, the reward hormone. Food CANNOT lose, so it must be that you lose, you have “no way to win with food”.
It can be the kiss of death for healthy happy normal eating when you feel like you can’t do anything right, or that it’s never enough…
As your push, fight and try harder and your relationship with food deteriorates, you end up emotional eating, binge eating, snacking & grazing mindlessly, falling off the wagon, losing consistency and confidence…
I totally understand how much this sucks. We cannot push our way to success like we’ve always been to…and most women I’ve worked with feel hopeless, defeated and exhausted when we first speak…
But what if food didn’t have to lose for you to win? What if it could be a win-win relationship?
Imagine if you were always succeeding at every meal or snack? If instead of hating food and yourself, you were loving it?
Imagine if instead of pushing and trying harder, eating in a healthy balanced consistent way was simple, intuitive and fun?
Imagine if you barely had to think about food and eating, that it was a SMALL and a normal part of your everyday life…
Are you ready for food to become just food?
P.S. – you can absolutely create win-win eating habits, where eating becomes more intuitive, normal, freeing, enjoyable and nourishing. You get to feel supported by your body instead of always fighting it – how fun is that! If you are committed to being a woman of freedom who wants to stop living in a prison of food thought, shame & guilt, let’s talk! We offer free Breakthrough to Freedom sessions for women ready to make food demons history. Just book your spot here – https://myspoonfulofsoul.com/apply
|Happy International No-Diet Day!|
Yes, eating healthy, happy & not losing control without diets is 100% possible! Even if it feels like YOU could never do it.
So many women I speak to believe that they need to follow some sort of food plan, diet or count calories to stay on track.
Maybe it’s Weight Watchers or counting macros.
Maybe it’s Paleo, Keto, Intermittent fasting or Whole 30.
Whatever it is, the general understanding is that this way of controlling food is HELPING you.
But what if it was actually HURTING you?
What if it was causing binges & emotional eating?
What if it took you farther away from having an easy & normal relationship with food?
Here’s what I’ve found in 10+ years of nutrition research and helping clients overcome food crazies:
We have conclusive research that shows that restricting drives us to cravings a.k.a we want what we can’t have. Women who tried to control themselves from eating certain foods inevitably end up eating more than those won’t don’t restrict anything. Sound familiar?Diets have less than 1% chance of success in long-term studies. No wonder it’s not working!Normal eaters don’t diet or try hard to control themselves. They simply don’t have that many cravings in the first place because of the way they eat! Studies show us genetics doesn’t play a role in this.
Think of the logic yourself – Shouldn’t eating in a certain way become easier and easier as time goes by just like building a new habit? Why then does it get harder?
Why do you end up falling off the wagon?
Why do you have periods of doing well and then falling off track?
Why do you need even more routines and stress management techniques to be “okay”?
The truth is that the fastest way to end binge or emotional eating, food obsession or patterns of falling off the wagon is to become a normal eater.
Then, you can eat when hungry & stop when full.
You get to enjoy food without any anxiety and without any fear of losing control.
You get to eat in a healthy balanced way and indulge when you feel like it without any fear.
Food becomes a simple, easy, small and fun part of life.
And we specialize in making this a reality for women who have never ever eaten this way or are not even sure it’s possible for them.
The one thing that all of our clients have though is commitment – they don’t know how they’re going to gain their food freedom, but they’re determined to do so no matter what. Now’s the time for them.
If this is you right now, we can help. We’ll jump on a free call together and I’ll breakdown what’s keeping you stuck, identify your food freedom goals and then map a plan to get you there.
That way, you get to blindly stop following years of internet advice and get an expert in-depth look at your eating habits.
Grab a slot that works here.
P.S. – Women report getting massive clarity and confidence to finally move in the right direction after this call. Imagine breaking out of the same pattern that’s kept you stuck for years and finally moving in the right direction – what’s that worth to you? Here’s the link for the call – https://www.myspoonfulofsoul.com/apply/
Defiant Commitment. That’s what it took for Tiger Woods to make one of the greatest comebacks in sports history.
14 years after his last Masters, 11 years after his last major, 7 surgeries and after the earth shattering humiliation of public rebuke, he won!
I love this story because it highlights perfectly the kind of belief, commitment, desire and persistence it takes to overcome our greatest challenges.
Our clients who get amazing results show up this way.
Not just believing they have control when they’re having a good day, but believing there will be a day when they’ll always have control. Even on their worst days.
Not just looking for the easiest, fastest trick so they can feel better in the moment only to fall off the wagon a week of month from now. But determined to find a smart sustainable solution so they can live free for good.
Not complaining about food being so difficult for them, but accepting it so they can get the help to move on.
So many driven and got-it-all women (myself and my clients included) have achieved whatever we set our mind to.
Sometimes we saw momentum instantly…
At other times, we worked out assess off…
And through all this, we motivated ourselves with the short end of the stick a.k.a tough love and harsh words to get up, moving and winning.
It worked great! As did it for Tiger. His father employed prisoner-of-war tactics to train him as a kid. He would shout abuse at him hoping to teach him to thrive under pressure. When it got too much to take, he asked Tiger to say “enough”. Years later, Tiger would proudly own that he’d never once said that word because it was a term for quitters.
It helped Tiger become a larger-than-life champion very quickly but this competitive have-it-all nature eventually led to him needing sex addiction therapy.
Ladies, there are always two sides to every coin.
Our biggest strengths are also our biggest weaknesses. Especially with food.
Food needs love, not fear…
Gentle prodding, not all or nothing…
Surrender, not control…
Grace towards yourself, not hate or despair…
For my clients, for me in the past and for most of you today – that’s the hardest part.
Even if you know how to do these things,
You’re afraid of losing who you are if you give up control.
You’re scared of stagnating if you’re kind instead of tough-loving on yourself.
You’re terrified that loving food will make you binge even more, so you’d rather make it just fuel.
So instead of fixing food and moving forward, you’re stuck AND sabotaging yourself to boot.
Because this is so intrinsic to who you are, 90% of driven women can’t even see what they’re missing. That’s why when our clients start working with us – they see such amazing results because we can pinpoint what’s holding them back. We break barriers, fast!
Look boo – you might be in the 10% of women who can figure this out yourself. Go for it. Or you might not be ready to make fixing food a priority yet – that’s fine too. But if this is important to you right now, if the fight with food has you in despair, losing hope and doubting yourself – you owe it to yourself and your family to get help.
P.S. – I’m secretly (or not so secretly) really proud that what we teach our clients doesn’t just stop their sabotage with food but actually helps them get even better results / feel happier in their personal and professional lives. We can talk about how to do this with you too – book a free breakthrough to freedom call, and in this call we’ll get clear on how you’re sabotaging yourself and what awesome future with food is possible for you when you move past it